The WOL can be done by Intel ME interface of chipset, not OS driver, so you probably need to setup a right hostname in ME BIOS (Ctrl+P at time of Intel Management Engine screen during POST), default password admin. If system do not support Intel AMT (so no ME BIOS), try to completely disable ME in MB BIOS, if possible.
If i understand well, i need to :
-Disable WOL in the OS driver
-Enable WOL in ME interface
Right ? But if the disable ME in MB BIOS because the system does not support Intel AMT we will have the same issue.
If you disable ME, NIC will not send WOL signals to it and will use other methods, like global SMBus signals, and ME will not interfere into boot (probably overriding driver setting by settings from own firmware).