I am not from Intel, but you do not seem to be alone in experiences like that. When you tried the various TVs/monitors, did you happen to notice if there was USB power such as to keyboard/mouse lights? That info might help someone diagnose. Since you have tried so many TVs/monitors (I assume that one or more of them was some straightforward HD such as 1080 or 720p), I wonder about the memory. I might avoid the higher speed (I have some higher speed that fails, not sure why) - do you have the model number of your Kingston RAM? These NUC seem to be picky about the memory density, which sort of translates into the number of chips on each side. I think they desire 4Gbit density which probably means 4 chips per side for a double-sided 4GB stick.
the rams part number is
Im not much of a guru so to speak when it comes to this kind of thing. so i am truly relying on the help from the forum
A quick search seems to say that is ECC memory. ECC is not supported, you must use non-ECC memory.
i will pick some non ecc up today but should i not get some sort of blinking light even if i do not have any memory in it?
When the Intel® NUC is off, press and hold the power button for approximately 3 seconds and then release it. Follow the instructions given here if you see a menu on the screen: Intel® NUC Boards and Kits — Computer Won't Boot After BIOS Update
You may also want to check the setting of the BIOS security jumper (41-42): http://downloadmirror.intel.com/23417/eng/DN2820FYKH_TechProdSpec04.pdf
If you still do not get video, remove all devices from the system, including memory, and see if you get blink codes.
Failing to get blink codes usually means you will need to replace the system through the place of purchase or contacting your nearest Intel support team.
Thanks everyone for your help I ended up getting it to go. dougho was absolutely right both the ram chips I tried were ecc ram when I specifically asked for non ecc once I verified and purchased non ecc everything worked perfectly. Thanks again for everyones help