I am sorry for the issue you encountered.
I would like to suggest you to check that your Intel® SSD has the proper heat dissipation and the chassis has sufficient air flow.
If the drive does not appear in BIOS anymore in spite of the indications above you may contact your local Intel® support team for further assistance.
I am experiencing a similar issue. I'm attempting to install Windows 8.1 on my DH87MC MB with the 525 mSATA. Whenever I format the SSD and start the OS installation, I get the following error message:
"Windows could not format a partition on disk 0. The error occurred while preparing the partition selected for installation. Error code:0x80070057"
The only way I've been able to get the SSD to show back up is to completely remove all power from the machine.
Hope this helps.
Update 10/26/2013 - I posted my problem here:https://communities.intel.com/message/210185#210185
More than a year later and there is not even an acknowledgment from intel that issue was confirmed. I am also affected with this bug and I would definitely appreciate any move with this case.