I also sent this issue directly to support. I suggested that the simple solution (as implemented by other graphics providers) is to have an option to disable monitor auto-detect. They informed me that they do not have this option, and they "may forward this feedback to the appropriate team for a future consideration".
Let's hope it won't take forever. So called 'feature' is extremelly annoying and this problem is for long time
and seems nobody cares about what the customers want.
Of course as you know Intel has not fixed this problem (and probably never will).
However, there is a hardware solution. The Gefen HDMI Detective Plus is a very small box (2.6x1.7x1.2) costing $85 from Amazon and others which tricks the computer into thinking the TV/Receiver is always on. This has completely solved my problem and is working great.
The box basically uses a 5v adapter to record your TV/Receiver EDID data (I needed a short cable for this as my long cable did not produce working results). Then discard the power supply and connect the detective between your computer and your RV/Receiver. The computer thinks the TV is always on and thus no flashing moving windows or reconfigured audio problems.
Good Luck -- Bob
P.S. I never got reliable Blu-Ray playback with the ZOOM player, but I have switched to XBMC and now playback is working great!