Since you want to configure a server that suits your needs that you have laid down here, first I'd advise you to look at one of my posts regarding a similar server configuration issue at the following URL: DISCUSSION: Right Server ??
Read my response in that post, dated Oct 22, 2008 at 2:53AM. That shall explain a lot to you as to how to configure a server from the scratch with processor, RAM, HDD, motherboard of your choice (according to your needs), their compatibility with each other and also the network load considerations that are addressed by going through a specific motherboards' technical specifications.
Now additionally, I would encourage you to go through the following URLs to know of the minimum system requirements for setting up Windows Home Server for a SOHO client.
Despite all this, if you still encounter any problems and want us to assist you in configuring a server, feel free to contact us.
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