Rajiv Doolub showed how to do it with an S3200SH in http://communities.intel.com/docs/DOC-3405 , but I've no idea how to do it with no IPMI header at all, except for the way you're trying - see if someone will kindly loan you a board temporarily.
Do you have an Intel field rep who might have one? A friendly distributor?
Hi Dan_O. I don't know anyone with the equipment I need to upgrade these sata expanders nor am I able to spend the $200+ for a S3200SH board. I was hoping to find someone in the area with an Intel server runing a S5000 board which would be willing to help me out. I could ship both of the expanders to someone if they will do it for me. I'd obviously pay for shipping both ways.