I talked to Intel tech support and the problem is my quarter 3 2009 motherboard bios is too old to see my quarter 1 2010 I5 processor. I am a newbie !%#*.
Just because the sales ad said "made for the new I5, I7 series" does not mean it will work. I am learning to do my research a bit deeper before I order my components. I guess i am going to build two computers now.
Thanks for the post,