I figured it out. The units I have working, I installed the driver and converted to RAID after the OS load...
In this post, http://communities.intel.com/message/119863#119863 people say 2008 R2 is not supported yet.
And yet it worked. But doing it properly (installing driver at load time) made it not work... Help!?!?
Fixed it! I did this before and forgot so I had to learn it all over again...
You need the .net 3.51 FEATURE - even though it will INSTALL with .net 4 (which is supposed to be backwards compatible right?) it apparently won't RUN with only v 4.
Install the feature - no need to even reboot - boom it works.
bingo ... that did the trick. installed .net 3.5 SP1 from features menu and it works. thanks for the tip !
as a side note, installing .net 3.5 SP1 from the installer pack off microsoft site generated a message to install it in roles menu (i am sure they mean features menu) ... installing from features generates a message it needs IIS to function correctly along with another feature .. possibly why .net 4 does not work ? IIS dependency built into RST?